Articles against online dating
The Guardian warns that these sites have created a “throwaway dating culture.” This is silly.People have always sought out casual sex — flings are key plot points in “Pride and Prejudice” (1813) and “The Fires of Autumn” (1942).It’s very deliberate — after all, you’re looking for a partner through an interface — and that creates a safer environment. This premise is so well-worn that sites like Tinder, Hinge and Coffee Meets Bagel offer little information about users beyond a collection of pictures and a two-line profile.“Online services enable a downright Seinfeld-ian level of superficial nitpickiness,” one Fortune article lamented.But as I learned at Ok Cupid, men don’t necessarily end up dating young women, even if they think they’re gorgeous.Men on the site tend to message women closer to their own age; very few men over 30 actually reach out to 20-year-old women.The premise was simple: For a day, we removed all the profile pictures on the site.Users howled — site traffic dropped more than 80 percent that day.
In one extreme example of an online lie, Notre Dame football star Manti Te’o was tricked a few years ago into virtually dating a woman who never existed.
And while it’s true that being older and single means you face a “thin” romantic market, both on the Web and off, the sheer scale of online dating mitigates this.
After all, the best way to beat long odds is to take lots of chances, and even for older users, dating sites provide millions of romantic options.
Once upon a time, online daters were mocked as lonely losers, or worse. Today, at least 40 million Americans are looking for love on the Web. Like sex, love and attraction, online dating is an object of fascination and confusion.
Some commentators credit it with helping singles feel more secure and confident, while others blame it for “ruining romance,” “killing commitment” and contributing to the rise of the hook-up culture. While women generally prefer men around their own age, men are most attracted to 20-year-olds, period.
One sociologist found that college-age students are having no more sex today than they were in 1988.